Have a difficult conversation? These self-care tips will empower you — and your soulcare.
– KEYS SOULCARE
Deep breath. You have been dreading this difficult conversation for a while. You know it’s necessary because everything in you is shifting and uncomfortable. You’ve been avoiding it because it’s challenging, but the self-love work you’ve been doing reminds you that your voice deserves to be heard and expressed. But how do you prepare for it?
Here are five ways lightworkers can self-care and prepare to have tough conversations.
1. GROUND YOURSELF
Confrontation can feel super overwhelming. Whether you’re anxious for days leading up to it, but avoiding it altogether, one way to set yourself straight is to find a little zen. Keep it simple and light a candle (try the Sage and Oat Milk candle for relaxation and clarity) to ground yourself. Think of it as a moment of personal ceremony where you can give yourself the love you need. Let the sweet, calming aroma run over you and give you the boost you need to stay present.
2. LISTEN TO MEDITATIONS
Sometimes the toughest part of challenging conversations is convincing ourselves to speak up. Encourage your inner voice — your feelings are valid, and you deserve to express yourself. Part of self-love is standing up for what you need, even when it’s challenging. Listen to an empowering meditation and take time to remind yourself of your worth.
3. JOURNAL
Nervous energy and heavy thoughts can cloud our minds. Seek refuge in the form of journaling. Writing has so much healing power and gives things more reality. A gratitude journal can remind you of all the positive aspects of your life or relationships, even when feeling challenged. Bringing in gratitude can ease discomfort and give you some security going forward. Writing awesome things about yourself is another way of building self-love, too. So spend some time jotting down what makes you amazing and deserving of what you need.
4. AFFIRMATIONS
When you don’t think you have what it takes, affirmations are like strength training for your insides. They can pump you up and get the positive energy flowing, giving you the courage to stand in your strength. Here’s a list of mantras to have on repeat, but it might also be helpful to create your own to fit your situation:
- I am worthy of having my needs heard and valued.
- My voice matters.
- I am safe to express my feelings.
- I am enough, and I walk in my strength.
- I can do hard things.
5. ACCEPT THE UNKNOWN
Know that sometimes you might not get the response you want. When you ask for something, the person can’t always give you what you need. That doesn’t make either of you wrong — it just means that you might have outgrown each other’s capacity. Whether you are asking your boss for a raise, drawing boundaries with an intrusive parent, or asking a partner for more reassurance, remember that the only person you can control is you. Even if you don’t get the desired outcome, know you are still worth the ask. A “no” can be a freeing experience because it helps you decide what you want to do and allows you to regain your power.
Having hard conversations is a part of growth. The more we grow in self-love, the more our standards will increase for how we want others to treat us. Confronting issues might be challenging, but you are stronger than you think. Tap into your power and trust that what’s meant for you will never leave you astray.
How do you prepare for challenging conversations? Let us know your soulcare practice in the comments!
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